Our behaviours are strongly connected to our internal belief systems. I’m not talking about religious or spiritual beliefs, I’m talking about the belief systems we have about ourselves, the world and people in it.
Anything from procrastination, self-sabotage or perfectionism come from beliefs of feeling unworthy or unlovable, stupid or incapable. OK…I’ve oversimplified it here, but you get my point.
When we want to progress on a trajectory of healthy self-love and acceptance, we first have to uncover those beliefs that are keeping us stuck in a loop of unhelpful behaviours. Interestingly enough, those beliefs aren’t even conscious beliefs. Most of them have developed over time and stem from a single occasion that can be traced back to (as Mastin Kipp calls it in his book “Claim your power”) an original incident that occurred in childhood.
That’s why working with behaviours alone won’t give you the lasting results you want when you’re doing the inner-work. Discovering your limiting-beliefs and reframing them is a stepping stone in the right direction.
Working with a coach, therapist or counselor will give you a framework to reveal those limiting-beliefs. This will help you alter that perception of yourself. Ultimately, it challenges the behaviours at the source – that are preventing you from reaching your healing, loving and growing potential.
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